Signs Of An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Healthy intimate relationship makes the lives of partners more fulfilled and easier. In healthy relationships, partners love each other, they respect each other and they find safe harbor in each other whenever they need support or advice.
Unfortunately, people in some relationships behave abusive inflicting substantial emotional pain on their partners which can make a real nightmare to him/her. Such behavior has extremely negative effects on the abused partner influencing on self-confidence, self-respect, worthiness of that person, and can lead to mental problems as anxiety and depression are.
Psychological abuse in relationship may be hard to recognize because compared to physically abusive relationship, it doesn’t show obvious marks of abusive behavior. This is often about subtle put downs and provocations so the abused person often believes something’s wrong with himself. That’s way it’s very important to recognize such behaviors in early stages of a relationship because if it happens frequently, it may cause significant psychological damage.
There are various forms of emotional abuse in relationships and they can range from yelling and calling partners’ names to subtle provocations (using irony and sarcasm) as well as different forms of violent behavior which does not include physical contact (throwing things, slamming door or reckless driving with the aim of scaring a partner, and similar).
In the following lines you may find the list of the most frequent emotional abuse in relationships. In case your partner does any of these things systematically or continuously, you are in an emotionally abusive relationship.
- Belittling or ridiculing the partner;
- Harsh, undeserved or frequent criticizing of one’s partner;
- Blaming the partner for their own abusive behaviour;
- Ordering the partner around/treating him or her like a servant;
- Insulting the partner;
- Communicating with the partner using irony or sarcasm;
- Demanding absolute attention;
- Lack of compassion and worry for partner’s feelings;
- Ignoring partner’s opinions;
- Saying things to upset or frighten one’s partner;
- Threatening one’s partner with suicide in case he/she leaves him/her;
- Limiting partner’s movements;
- Checking one’s partner, where’s and what’s he/she has been doing;
- Monitoring phone calls, SMS and computer use;
- Preventing the partner to make new social contacts and maintain the existing ones, as well as his/her connections with the family;
- Preventing the partner to work;
- Denying one’s own responsibility or any kind of guilt;
- Violent behavior not including physical contact (e.g. hitting the wall or throwing the things on the wall, slamming the door, fast and reckless driving with the aim of frightening one’s partner, and similar);
- Communicating with a partner with irony and sarcasm;
- Smirking, rolling the eyes and making contemptuous facial expressions during communication with the partner.